Dialysis...The Journey

`From the Desk of the Empowerment Doctor~

Stephanie E. Wilson-Coleman

It seems that we have all been experiencing constant change at some level in our lives for years and as a result, we are running around frantically searching for the cause.  We view these changes as chaotic because we believe that we are fervently seeking success.  But the pseudo success we seek is actually a form of stagnation.   Because we doubt our own power, we want our lives to stand quietly by and give its’ permission for us to overdose on consumerism, reality television, social media and anything else that will suppress the desires of our heart.  But no matter how hard we try to ignore our power, our inner voice will keep knocking on our hearts until we answer, even if the only reason we answer is to end the chaos. 

     We were each created with more power than we will ever fully be able to understand.  Recent research in Quantum Physics has demonstrated that everything is energy and everything is interconnected to the seen and unseen.  Our thoughts create, our bodies are filled with healing power and we are in the driver’s seat.   Are you ready to blast off toward your dreams and create the “super bowl” in your life?  If the answer is yes, here are a few pointers for your navigation system:

11)      Heal your addiction to gossip & idle conversations – Some research suggest that we spend approximately 5 hours a day, 25 hours a week gossiping or participating in idle conversation and activities.  That is 25 hours a week that we are not working toward our goals.  Active involvement in this type of activity will keep you from being successful.    Instead, start to keep your mind on your dreams, and your dreams on your mind.

22)     Learn to dance with your anger – We are never angry for the reasons we think; too often we read too much into situations and we are constantly adding our stuff.   Emotions, feelings are road signs in our lives.  When you are experiencing anger, ask “why I am taking this personally?  Is there any truth to what was said?  What is this feeling revealing about me?  Have I felt this way before?”  Tracing these feelings back to the first time you felt this emotion will identify the issue that needs to be forgiven.  This step is critical.   Anger keeps your mind blocked and interferes with your ability to attract success, including money.      

33)     Expand your imagination - Instead of using your imagination to create trials, tribulations and drama, keep your focus on possibilities and not obstacles.  Allowing your mind to dwell on negative thoughts and images will rob you of any possibilities that are the horizon.  You can only achieve what you can perceive.       

These changes will allow you to create the best in life and develop your “greatness”.  The ball is in your court. 

 Remember, life is too short to drink cheap champagne.  Dream Big!  Live the life you have imagined. 

Stephanie lives her inspiration as the founder of The Champagne Connection, Inc. which is dedicated to helping others transform their lives so they may live their dreams. Stephanie is the Host of the television show “A Sip of Inspiration”, author of 3 books and the publisher of the online empowerment magazine “www.empowermentdoctormag.com” 

The other side of Normal

Yesterday I missed church....the beginning of the year. A little disappointed, but fate as it was had deemed it for me not to miss messages. A good friend of mine, gave her son an surprise birthday party. Needless to say, it was far away from where I lived. I needed the break after dealing with people whom I thought would be a therapist dream come true ( A manic depressive, an alcoholic and people who you just should not be around if you want to do positive things). Anyway, as I observed this young man in action...my heart was moved at the way he loved his mother...respected other women and people. Our eyes met and he came over to talk with me and shook my hand...at first I wanted him to leave....then I could not get enough of him. Yet all during our conversation he kept shaking my hands...he then opposed me with three questions of things that troubled him.

1. Why he could not get channel 7 on his tv.

2. How do he get a cell phone connection.

3. Why do people take days off?

As we talked about cell phones and TV sets....a chill shot through my body, and then I knew, that after dealing with the people who were suppose to be normal, talking with him was a welcome change. The simplicity and honesty of his questions and the seriousness in his eyes, where as innocent as a child. I was there for only one hour, and learned one of the most important lessons of my life through this young man. Although, he is 32 yrs. of age....and me nearly 50....you are never too old to learn. You see he has autism....something that we may never understand unless you care for someone with this disorder, or you are lucky enough to be loved by someone with this disorder.

So when I encounter people who are suppose to be normal...and steadily try to bring me down. I think of this young man....and it shows me what the other side of normal can be like. I love it.

Where are you headed

As we go through life, learning the goodness of all the things it has to offer. We should be cognizant of the feelings that we share. Truly not greater love has a man that his friends would lay down his life. But are we the same way. Let us exam ourselves and decide what kind of man or woman we want to be. Then the hard part is giving up the Sin that keeps us captive to being the type of person that we don't want to be. Love does a whole lot more than just prevail. Let it start in you ....let me show you how.

Dinner Etiquette

I met an old girlfriend who really is just a girl friend...that invited me to come down to Chicago and visit. I thought it was a nice gesture since we had not seen one another face to face approx 6 to 8 mos. Anyway we use to toy with the notion of dating after getting to know one another. At dinner the conversation picked right up were we left off 6-8 mos ago. When it came time to order the meal, I chose a salad and beverage...whereas she chose a salad, stack of ribs and two extra sides. I was amazed to see her order such a big meal. She is such a small woman. Anyway as I said we picked up the talk from were we left off 8 mos ago...now during the time we attempted to get to know one another...we never kissed...never had sex. Truthfully I stopped the engagement because I felt used, during the relationship (if you can call it that)..When the check came...she did not offer to pay her half or chip in for the tip. Again I'm feeling used....even though I could afford it, I believe there is a certain etiquette that goes with dinner....or do you think I'm being cheap and petty? Yes she almost cleaned her plate.

Greiving Awhile

I recently experienced a lost of my spouse of 30 years. I found myself gradully doing things each year to honor or keep her memory alive. My friends believe at some time I should not do these things. Currently its been three years. The results of some memories can have devastating effect. Here where the problem may lye. The spirit cries for us to move forward...but the flesh...requires that you stay. Which is stronger. Getting the heart and the mind to be in agreement can be one of most difficult task known to man. How is that you can forget about someone who has played such a significant portion in your life. Yet at the same time trying to move forward and take care of the pieces in your own life. Agreed time is precious...but yet we honor those members who were not in our family yet done great things that have enriched our lives. So why not honor the ones that enriched your life and helped make you the person that you are today. So again I ask....when should the grieving end....or do we just simply let go and forget. Love is love and honor is honor....your thoughts

The New Bullies

Just when we thought we were through with the misunderstood children who like to pick on the younger week kids because they could. Taking their lunch monies and extorting them to bring things to make themselves look good. Back in the day they called it "Joning" or criticizing one another for fun. What once use to start off as harmless fun now leads to children being shot at school. Teens making bombs in the basement to get back at the ones who made fun of them. Now the trend has fallen on the so called professionals....turn on a TV show or radio or read through your local social media log, and you'll hear, see and read some of the same rhetoric from your childhood history. Oh! What have we learned....to be more thick skinned about the criticism or not to take it seriously. What we haven't learned is not to do it at all. What hurt when you were 14 years of age taking a hazing from your classmates still hurts to day in our 40's and 50's. Terms like...(he's too fat)( She has the wrong hair style) This is not about "self esteem" we feed ourselves and egos plenty of that. What happened to the professionals who are suppose to uplift, inspire and motivate people. What happened to great power requiring great responsibilities. What happened to...If you can't say something nice ....don't say nothing at all. And that's the bottom line...people not being responsible for what comes out of their mouths...and more so they find others to validate their madness. A young man who hung himself for being called a homosexual. Some may not care...but that was someones child. This is a new time...we are barley getting past racism...and now we feed a new beast. In short more people should act, speak and carry themselves as their age dictates, not their shoe size. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man I put childish things behind me.(1 cor. 13:11)