Sunday, February 27, 2011
Dinner Etiquette
I met an old girlfriend who really is just a girl friend...that invited me to come down to Chicago and visit. I thought it was a nice gesture since we had not seen one another face to face approx 6 to 8 mos. Anyway we use to toy with the notion of dating after getting to know one another. At dinner the conversation picked right up were we left off 6-8 mos ago. When it came time to order the meal, I chose a salad and beverage...whereas she chose a salad, stack of ribs and two extra sides. I was amazed to see her order such a big meal. She is such a small woman. Anyway as I said we picked up the talk from were we left off 8 mos ago...now during the time we attempted to get to know one another...we never kissed...never had sex. Truthfully I stopped the engagement because I felt used, during the relationship (if you can call it that)..When the check came...she did not offer to pay her half or chip in for the tip. Again I'm feeling used....even though I could afford it, I believe there is a certain etiquette that goes with dinner....or do you think I'm being cheap and petty? Yes she almost cleaned her plate.
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Well apparently it is not an issue about money! Whenever a person is feeling like they are being used they probably are. I don't believe a person should invite another individual out for dinner expecting the other one to pay. If anything it is a gesture of kindness for the invitee to pick up the tab. Just a gesture, nothing more. If you are living in a land full of lollipops then you have to realize that you're a sucker.Whenever an individual says "do you think I'm fat" I think to myself skinny people don't ask that question. Next time either tell her how you feel or let it go. It may be hard to let go but nobody wants to be a sucker. Leave lollipop land and join everyone else on earth!
ReplyDeleteNot that anyone is responsible for my self esteem, but no one likes being taken advantage of, in any shape form or fashion. Its not the point of the money its more so of having your feelings challenged. Love is a special thing and should never be toyed with. If its about money one should say so and let it go...or if its about sex one should say so and not play around.
ReplyDeleteRegardless how the situation comes about money, sex, or even love there should never come a time when you have to question which is more important. When you feel that you have to question your judgement that usually means that there is something wrong. When you go to the store to buy a loaf of bread for 2 dollars and the store tries to sell it to you for 3 dollars you know there is something wrong. The same goes with love. If you are supposed to love someone and you have to question if they love you then there is something wrong. Never neglect your feelings or judgmental decision making skills.
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