Where are you headed

As we go through life, learning the goodness of all the things it has to offer. We should be cognizant of the feelings that we share. Truly not greater love has a man that his friends would lay down his life. But are we the same way. Let us exam ourselves and decide what kind of man or woman we want to be. Then the hard part is giving up the Sin that keeps us captive to being the type of person that we don't want to be. Love does a whole lot more than just prevail. Let it start in you ....let me show you how.

Dinner Etiquette

I met an old girlfriend who really is just a girl friend...that invited me to come down to Chicago and visit. I thought it was a nice gesture since we had not seen one another face to face approx 6 to 8 mos. Anyway we use to toy with the notion of dating after getting to know one another. At dinner the conversation picked right up were we left off 6-8 mos ago. When it came time to order the meal, I chose a salad and beverage...whereas she chose a salad, stack of ribs and two extra sides. I was amazed to see her order such a big meal. She is such a small woman. Anyway as I said we picked up the talk from were we left off 8 mos ago...now during the time we attempted to get to know one another...we never kissed...never had sex. Truthfully I stopped the engagement because I felt used, during the relationship (if you can call it that)..When the check came...she did not offer to pay her half or chip in for the tip. Again I'm feeling used....even though I could afford it, I believe there is a certain etiquette that goes with dinner....or do you think I'm being cheap and petty? Yes she almost cleaned her plate.

Greiving Awhile

I recently experienced a lost of my spouse of 30 years. I found myself gradully doing things each year to honor or keep her memory alive. My friends believe at some time I should not do these things. Currently its been three years. The results of some memories can have devastating effect. Here where the problem may lye. The spirit cries for us to move forward...but the flesh...requires that you stay. Which is stronger. Getting the heart and the mind to be in agreement can be one of most difficult task known to man. How is that you can forget about someone who has played such a significant portion in your life. Yet at the same time trying to move forward and take care of the pieces in your own life. Agreed time is precious...but yet we honor those members who were not in our family yet done great things that have enriched our lives. So why not honor the ones that enriched your life and helped make you the person that you are today. So again I ask....when should the grieving end....or do we just simply let go and forget. Love is love and honor is honor....your thoughts

The New Bullies

Just when we thought we were through with the misunderstood children who like to pick on the younger week kids because they could. Taking their lunch monies and extorting them to bring things to make themselves look good. Back in the day they called it "Joning" or criticizing one another for fun. What once use to start off as harmless fun now leads to children being shot at school. Teens making bombs in the basement to get back at the ones who made fun of them. Now the trend has fallen on the so called professionals....turn on a TV show or radio or read through your local social media log, and you'll hear, see and read some of the same rhetoric from your childhood history. Oh! What have we learned....to be more thick skinned about the criticism or not to take it seriously. What we haven't learned is not to do it at all. What hurt when you were 14 years of age taking a hazing from your classmates still hurts to day in our 40's and 50's. Terms like...(he's too fat)( She has the wrong hair style) This is not about "self esteem" we feed ourselves and egos plenty of that. What happened to the professionals who are suppose to uplift, inspire and motivate people. What happened to great power requiring great responsibilities. What happened to...If you can't say something nice ....don't say nothing at all. And that's the bottom line...people not being responsible for what comes out of their mouths...and more so they find others to validate their madness. A young man who hung himself for being called a homosexual. Some may not care...but that was someones child. This is a new time...we are barley getting past racism...and now we feed a new beast. In short more people should act, speak and carry themselves as their age dictates, not their shoe size. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man I put childish things behind me.(1 cor. 13:11)